Frequently Asked Questions

1. Is KEYS more like a classroom setting or is it like group therapy?
KEYS is more like a classroom. The leader presents material and participants ask questions and practice skills with coaching available.

2. My spouse dislikes therapy. How is KEYS different?
KEYS teaches to a group of people and does not single out anyone. Participants can sit back and learn without saying a word if they so choose. No practice exercises are forced upon participants.

3. But what if I just hate groups? Would I have to talk in front of people I do not know?
Many people who "hate" groups love KEYS. No one EVER has to talk in front of the group. You can learn just from hearing other people share. The group ultimately provides a safe place to try out new skills and feels, for most people, very accepting. It also allows people to see courage and growth in others. Participants often state that they finally realize how normal they are in their own struggles.

4. Is there a predictable agenda to the courses?
Definitely. Each KEYS course has a given set of skills to cover in the time scheduled.

5. How many participants are present for a KEYS program?
It varies. Usually from 8 to 30 people. A typical class size is between 12 and 24 participants.

6. My partner and I have already had private couples counseling. How can KEYS help us?
KEYS is different in several ways from private counseling and is not intended to compete with or replace one to one work with your therapist. KEYS can be useful as an addition to private counseling:

	It has a strong teaching component, which is why it is termed psycho-education
	Seeing the strengths and abilities of other couples can have a very powerful effect on your sense of new possibilities.
	There is a specific agenda for each day that is adhered to.
	KEYS is a skills-based course that provides for, as its name suggests, very practical applications that can be learned and repeated to maintain healthy relationships.

7. I have a therapist/counselor I am already using for private therapy. Can I come to KEYS and still retain my current relationship with him/her?
Absolutely. We have several therapists who regularly refer their clients to KEYS programs to give their clients the maximum growth opportunities. If you wish for Dr. White to consult with your private therapist, you will need to sign a release enabling her to do so. Dr. White can then interact with the therapist to let him/her know about the specific skills you are being taught. This enables your therapist to be supportive in helping you maintain the skills.

8. If I were to compare KEYS psychoeducation to traditional marriage therapy, how much would I be getting?
The four-month semester long course has 120 teaching/practicing hours (which would approximate two and a half years of weekly private sessions). With KEYS you will gain skills at a much more rapid rate.

9. I really don't think that we can make the radical changes because of all our commitments (kids, jobs, time pressures, financial obligations, business or school commitments). What can KEYS do for us if we are so busy?
We find that most people who take KEYS are very busy people. Part of the commitment to take KEYS is to set aside time and to make the relationship a priority. KEYS teaches skills to help people connect in the hectic world. It also helps couples examine their lifestyles and make changes that often lead to more fun and more peace.

10. We've been married for more than 20 years. Can the KEYS program help us change after all these years?
SURE. We've seen tremendous changes people can make, even when they have been married for 50 years. We find that it's not the length of time married, it's the desire and commitment to change and grow and experience joy that makes the difference. KEYS sometimes enables people to rekindle a spark that becomes a wonderfully pleasurable relationship again.

11. Do the classes and the other KEYS activities help us develop a good plan for our marriage in the future?
Yes. Before you graduate from the semester long course, you and your partner will get to prepare a plan for where you want your marriage to be in six months and beyond. We find that when you have a plan, you are more likely to reach your goals.

12. I'm not in a relationship right now. I'm lonely, but frankly I'm scared to try again. How can KEYS help a single person like me?
KEYS helps singles know themselves better and helps them discover more about healthy relationships. Singles have told us that after taking the KEYS classes, they feel more able to choose appropriate friendships or partnerships and they have an increased frame of reference for healthy pleasurable possibilities.

13. How is KEYS different from other marriage assistance programs I have taken?
There are a number of programs available. With "Marriage Encounter", for instance, one significant difference is that the semester-long KEYS program is longer, and more comprehensive allowing for change to happen over time and for more material to be presented and experienced. One participant who has taken both explain it as "Marriage Encounter is like a sip of coffee and KEYS is like the whole cup."

14. What kinds of people go through the KEYS program?
All kinds: young, old, middle aged; happy couples looking to find ways to experience even more joy; couples with "the attorneys on hold . . .looking for one last ditch effort", people trying to decide if their partner is "the right one", singles looking to figure out what it takes to have a lasting relationship. The design of the curriculum and the psychoeducational modality enables all sorts of different people in different situations to grow and learn and change.

15. Will all the people in my class be around my age or will there be people of all ages?
The class usually has participants of all ages. The older people usually say they are envious of people who take it while they are young because it provides them with skills to use to have many years of happiness, and avoid some of the mistakes they might have made. It also reminds them of the positive relationship energy they might have lost over the years. The younger people learn from the experience and insights of the older couples, and often gain enormous resolve to make the time to keep the relationship a top priority.

16. What is the "success rate" of KEYS?
Excellent! People have made important decisions, have grown and bonded together in healthy ways or have been able to leave relationships that are not fulfilling and bonded. Countless marriages have been saved. People have learned to experience joy!

17. We have been seeing each other for almost a year and are beginning to think about the long term. Can KEYS help a new relationship?
ABSOLUTELY! KEYS grads in similar situations have gained skills necessary to make the commitment to each other. People in a new relationship without a lot of baggage learn ways to keep their relationship current and deal with problems effectively so that baggage does not have to build up. It will help them see the speed bumps of life before they get to them, so that they can go over them gently, or go around them.

18.When does the next KEYS course begin?
KEYS is offered twice a year in the Spring and Fall. For the date the next course begins call The Enhancement Institute at 713-961-5243.

19. I'm still not sure, where can I find out more?
Before the start of each new course The Enhancement Institute offers a free KEYS Preview evening. At this preview the course facilitators, Dr. White and Dr. Richards, along with several graduates of the KEYS program, briefly discuss the outline of KEYS and are available for questions. For the date of the next KEYS Preview call The Enhancement Institute at 713-961-5243.

20.How much does it cost, and is it covered by insurance?
For fees and insurance information call The Enhancement Institute at 713-961-5243.

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